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All Work And No Fun, that thoroughly depressed me.
The writer gives a detailed description of how parenthood will destroy your life and turn you into a miserable, resentful ogre.
It is laced with sad and depressing pictures of the author's home life with her husband and newborn twins.
I looked at the photos and read the entire article hoping to find a light at the end of the tunnel. None to be found. They are tired, and argumentative, and have no time for themselves.
OK, so newborns are a lot of work, and trying to maintain a relationship with your co-parent is a work in progress. But, these are parents who are employed, living in a nice home, with plenty of food in their kitchen. They have entered into a new world and it takes a long time to make that adjustment.
To complain, and then back up with statistics, their misery and terrible lot in life because they decided to have children, is the saddest self portrait I have seen to date. I wonder if they thought about how this story is a permanent reflection that their children will have access to and undoubtedly read someday.
How can someone be so out of touch with reality? New York is not Uganda. These children are healthy. The mother survived the birth. The mother and father are employed and are not starving to death. They do not have to carry water on their heads for miles each day just to boil their rice for their one meal of the day. Their children have access to free education.
So, the parents are sleep deprived.... Yup, been there.
Arguing? Been there.
No time for yourself.... Doesn't exist.
Those are topics you get to discuss when you meet your girlfriends for drinks someday in the near future. It's universal and all parents have been through it. For thousands of years, parents have gone through these newborn side effects and survived.
What this author did not mention is how quickly the time flies. Little by little you do get your life back. Your children are now an integral part of your life and you have the luxury of being front row, center, while watching these new humans develop into people. They are different from anyone else in the world, have unique personalities and can make you laugh and cry.
My oldest daughter and I now take walks after work. We are very close. When she was little, I had no idea we would have the kind of relationship we have today. My youngest is one of the funniest kids I have ever seen. He makes all of us laugh so hard that we are in tears. Each child has his or her own interesting quirks that make our family so interesting and fun. One likes to write and tell stories. One plays music beautifully. One a very talented artist and another likes to imitate Michael Jackson. My husband does cartwheels with them on the lawn. Sometimes our home life is better than any vacation we could take.
Maybe this author will know how blessed she is someday.